2. Self-awareness
The ability to identify your own emotions is called self-awareness. This involves, first of all, admitting that you’re feeling a certain way. Here are two points to remember:
- Negative emotions like anger, fear, and jealousy are often the hardest to admit.
- Research shows that people who can separate and name their different emotions are better able to manage them.
As an example, imagine that you’re upset because your best friend just canceled a dinner date. When asked about it, you say you’re “sad” because you were looking forward to the occasion. But wait: Sadness and upset are not the same. Why did you become so upset? Are you also feeling angry at your friend? Perhaps jealous because the friend may be seeing other people? Or scared that the friendship may be falling apart? Being able to separate and name those different emotions is a key to self-awareness.